It is the most difficult aspect of adoption.
I’m hoping for the fairy tale story. We travel across the world and sweep up two precious lives into our family. We help transform them from poverty to princesses. I’m a romantic at heart, so this ideal appeals to me. And I hope to achieve it. Oh, I’m not naive. My family has an order and rhythm that we are about to disrupt by adding two strangers to our home. There will be struggles and breakdowns, grief and anger, as we learn to be a bigger family. But there will also be love and community, laughter and healing, and ultimately triumph. With God’s help, I intend to get my “happily, ever after” for my girls. Through the narrow lens of my experience, I believe I’m going to see my dreams come true.
But what happens when that lens isn’t so narrow?
That’s the problem. You don’t just get to see the kids you are bringing home. You see all the others who are left behind.
I read a story today about a little boy who is unwanted. A little boy who is a victim to circumstances he didn’t create. A little boy who wants a family. I’m crying as I write this because I want him. We could make room in our family for one more. But I can’t take him. I’m fighting so hard for the two that I can get!
If I’m honest, I wish I didn’t know his story. Sometimes I wish we never started this journey because I was so blissfully blind. I didn’t have to confront what we are doing, or not doing, to these children. But my eyes have been opened and I can’t pretend that I haven’t seen. I have to do something.
So today I’m advocating for Anthony. Could this be your boy? Could he fit in your family? Could you give him a happily ever after? Could you support him financially? Could you give to help another family bring him home?
It’s painful to open your eyes. The darkness is much more comfortable. But when we see, clearly see, what is in front of us, we will do something about it. I’m inviting you to join me and make a difference today.
Click here to donate to Anthony’s Adoption Fund or, better yet, to start your journey in bringing your son home!